Ok so a long time before I was born, I mean a LONG time 😉 My mom lived in Oklahoma City. Off 63rd and Walker, which She swears to me "wasn't a bad part of town back then" ok mom. She does have stories of roaming the neighborhood "all day, til the street lights came on" So I believe Her, bc there's no way in Hell My girls would roam our neighborhood, and We live in Moore haha; But that was 30 years ago and times have changed a lot! I would love to feel comfortable enough to let my kids out of my sight but there's just no telling what could happen these days. Its a shame.
Anyways, my moms best friend, Sandy lived across the street from her and they did everything together. She's a couple of years older than my mom so of course my mom thought she was the shiznit. Which apparently She was bc my grandma disliked her strongly lol. Which is understandable, but my mom and grandma didn't get along well so Sandy's house was where my mom spent most of Her time (I'm sure if we had family in Belair, CA... She would've been sent there in a cab and I'd like to think when She would've got there, She would've got out of the cab saying "yo, smell ya later") but that's a whole different story.
Apparently either Sandy's parents were never home or just didn't care but according to my mom there were lots of "get togethers" My mom was a sophomore and Sandy was a senior, so of course Sandy was the bee's knees (I don't even know what that means, Do bee's have knees?) Anyways, She was cool.
Fast forward a couple of years, mostly bc I don't know what exactly happened in that time period. Did Sandy go to college? Did She stay home after She graduated? If not, How'd they keep in touch without cellphones and email? This was way before the Zac Morris Cell Phone!
Off Subject, well not really, do y'all remember Pagers? Haha I remember wanting one so bad! But then after while of seeing my friends with theirs and they'd hear that "beep beep beep" or if you were cool they put it on vibrate; and as soon as they looked at it You could just tell it was their Mom, bc it said "911" and then your friend bee lined it to the closest phone, and you could hear her mom on the other end saying "get home now, or I will kill you!" Good feeling gone. I then decided I did not want one.
Anyways, if you haven't noticed by now I have A.D.D lol My next paragraph will be about Tiger Lilly's. Which by the way is my favorite flower. Omg see I almost started this paragraph with the beautiful orange Lilly with tiger stripes. I guess I might as well finish the paragraph, bc I know you're dying why that's my favorite flower. No? Ok. Too bad. My grandma (GG) always had them on the side of her house and they just remind me of good times in my childhood.
Ok, where was I? Oh ya, somehow sandy and my mom (Her name is Kelly btw) stayed in touch til my mom graduated highschool. After my GG's kids were of legal age, She hit the road! And by road, I mean that 13 hr plane flight over the ocean to Japan! She had been going to college while my mom was in school. Went to college at 35 (or around there) and finished by the time my mom graduated highschool with like 5 degrees lol Associate in Arts, Minor in Education, Major in Psychology, and Her Bachelors Queen B. So after all that She got a teaching job on an American Army Base in Japan. So She packed up and left her kids behind. Which sounds mean, but I don't think i would be here if She hadnt.
After she left, Sandy and my mom were inseparable. Sandy started dating a guy named Gary, Who had a brother named Mike (ruh-roh) So obviously She wanted my mom to meet the brother. She fell hard for him, I mean It was the early 80s so how do you not fall for a mustache and curly blonde mullet. Apparently he was a charmer... For awhile.
I'm not sure how long they dated, but I'm guessing not long before they got married. They were already having problems before marriage and hes a very good manipulator and how ever bad the fights were, she still loved him very much. They got married in March of 1983. She was 19. After their Chandler, Ok wedding is when the fighting got much worse! Emotionally, Mentally, Physically. Like most abused Women, She thought if I get pregnant it'll stop. So She did. Right after they got married! Didn't work. She ended up leaving and moving her things down to Dallas, TX to live with her Dad. He followed her tried to beg for her back but She didn't at that time.
I was born on December 23, 1983 in Dallas, Texas. They brought me to my mom in a Christmas stocking 😢 She named me Kristin Ann Glasgow. She has a couple of reasons for the name Kristin, 1 being there was a show called Dallas (kinda like a country 90210) and there was a girl on there named Kristen and She liked the name. 2 being it was two days before Christmas, She was probably thinking Christ what have I gotten myself into as well but she's never admitted that to me.
A couple of months after I was born Mike (my father) begged her to move back home, said he was different, and He had changed blah blah. She believed Him. So He came and got us and I made my trip to Oklahoma for the 1st time to live with my mom and dad. But shortly after, He went back to his ways.
Since I was less than 1, I obviously don't have any memory of this, but pictures are worth a thousand words. They had apparently got into another huge fight, I don't know what it was about it but that doesn't matter. Whatever it was made him mad though bc she ended up with a few bruises and that's not the worst part. He had gotten out a glass jar of mayonaise and chunked it at her head, gashing her head open. I don't know who called the cops but she was rushed to the er where the gash was so big they had to shave her hair off her head to stitch her up.
She left Him for good after that, saying She wouldn't her baby in that environment.
She has always said I'm her angel baby, bc if it weren't for me being born, She probably wouldn't be here today.
But to me, She'll always be idol. She went thru so much just to have me. Then endure what she did , courage to leave and not look back, and then become a single mom. She'll always be the strongest woman ill ever know. I'll always have her back for not only what she endured but what she did for me!
"A mother's love is stronger than anything in the world."
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